I continued this pattern of farming, taking care of cutting grass and home responsibilities during the busy farm months when my hubby was busy, and teaching the CCD classes and substitute teaching in the winter months for about 4 years. Then the pattern changed a bit more.
I had some family members who had some medical issues and at times, it was very difficult handling some of the issues that would come up. One was my biological mother. I was her POA, Power Of Attorney, and my siblings and I chose to put her into a nursing home as her dementia and issues progressed.
As most know who have family members with dementia, they can become difficult to deal with and very hard-headed. There were times when the nursing home felt they couldn’t control her and sometimes, even at night, they would call for help. It usually took me 25 minutes or so to get there, and many times by the time I got there, she was already calmed down. However, there were times she was not.
My one sibling and I were blessed with taking turns during the week to see to her needs. I had not had that chance growing up and it was interesting to hear her stories she did recall. We learned a lot about her and each other. It was a chance we hadn’t had before and I’ll cherish those moments always.
I favored my mom a lot in looks. I remember one nurse saying shortly after we put her in the nursing home that the other siblings didn’t look a lot like her but when she saw me, she knew whose daughter I was. I had my mother’s features and the other 3 had our father’s. Can’t change that but sometimes wish I had more of my dad’s height and weight!
Learning our government system while dealing with some of these family issues woke me up to how messed up it is! I have a better understanding why people get frustrated with the system. I can’t tell how many papers I filled out and how many were repeated over and over and the system still didn’t cooperate or get it. I had to write letter after letter to get help for some and many days had such a headache with just dealing with these people and papers!
I suggest to anyone having to deal with family issues with the government to hire a lawyer if possible or find free lawyer services which sometimes are available in your counties. I wish I knew this piece of information a bit earlier than when I found out because it sure would have saved me from frustration alley!
As life progressed, I failed to depend on His guidance in all my frustrations and worrying. I failed to allow Him to take charge and wanted to take things into my own hands. I believe He allowed my path as it was to help control my patience and see through the frosted eye lens I was looking through. I couldn’t understand the why’s of my path and pity was creeping in. I prayed to him and went to church faithfully. I wanted to know more, but the connection wasn’t as strong as I felt it should have been.
